Battle of the sexes: Whose fault is it anyways?

So Im tired of it and I'm pretty sure most of you are tired of it as well.  I cant find a good man I cant find a good woman.  Well  Whose fault is it?????? Whose fault is it that you cant find a good man or good woman?  I'll wait.........  Well normally after that statement there is finger pointing  men are no good women are no good blah blah blah blah blah.  Check your self!!!  Men check your selves.  What have you been promoting and supporting and blowing up????? Instagram models reality show stars knifed up to get wifed up women.  and ladies  what have you been promoting supporting and blowing up..  Rapper styled boys mama boys corner boys lazy boys.  So now think about why you cant find  a good mate.  well everyone's out here trying to model themselves after the mainstream.  Underneath all the falsities there are good men there are good women  but because we are too busy trying to be what we think the other wants we aren't being true to ourselves.  So stop trying to be the models we see grabbing men attention You are beautiful and smart and more than meets the eyes.  Men stop trying to act tough and HARD and grow up.  We want a provider(legally)  someone not afraid to show emotions.  (real men do cry) Stop spending your time telling the other what's wrong with them and start working on you and making sure you know what you want and be ready for that man or woman when they arrive in your life, because 9 times out of 10 he or she may already be in your life just waiting for you to get it right. 

Who do you think you are?

Do you think your a good person?  I mean a really good person.  Not taking advantage of anyone. Not hurting someones feelings.  Not being inconsiderate and selfish or just plain ole ignorant?  Or just down right mean?  Do you know that you are being this way or are you ignoring it?  Have people in your life said it at one time or another the same things about you and you get mad at them and think they are "Hating on you"?  I will admit it.  I feel like I am a good person whenever I see someone in pain hurting emotionally physically or mentally I just want to help them.  Its in my nature.  I feel sympathy and empathy for all those who need it.  But I have been at times inconsiderate selfish and have hurt someones feelings.   Whether it was knowingly or unknowingly I have down some people wrong.  For a long time I thought I was grateful I thought I showed my gratefulness to those who I was grateful for.  Looking back now I feel I missed the mark a few times.  Not that many times I was doing it purposefully but none the less I did it.  Whether it was an action or a word. I did it.  Its taken some time for me to realize that before I wasn't truly grateful.  I was praying last night and i got a flash back over my life and I started to cry. Not tears of sorrow but of joy.  I cant believe how grateful I truly am.  I look at my sons and my heart just flutters.  I created them (with help from my husband of course) but I did that.   I look at my husband and I want to just squeeze him and never let him go.  I don't know where I would be without him in my life.  We have gotten through so much together. ( I don't say it enough  but I love you hun).  My life is far from perfect I am no where near the vicinity of perfect but I try everyday to be the best me I can be.  I am starting a campaign to be grateful  everyday.  I am grateful everyday I wake up because I know I could've been gone a long time ago but here I stand,    I try to no longer be selfish whether its not eating the last chicken wing or cinnamon roll or making sure the needs of the most important people in my life are met.
 I want to say to anyone I have met and have some way hurt your feelings said something crazy to or just down right mean too(pretty sure that's a low number on that one)  I am truly sorry.  I hope you have not carried that with you for a long time and if so I apologize for not saying sorry a long time ago.  I know how carrying "baggage" around with you  can weigh you down so I'm sorry.    If you've hurt someone and you know it or even if you think you may have been a jerk to someone just say your sorry (but mean it)  Nothing worse than just being mean angry and hateful to everyone around you that just spawns more mean angry and hateful people.  We so don't need that in the world today.  I hope this message reached someone and possibly made a difference in your life.  I am on a journey to inspire and heal and if I can help to inspire and heal some people along the way that would be amazing.  Thank you for taking the time to read reflect and absorb what I am saying

I'm grateful for you and pray you have a blessed and grateful life!!!

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Mothers its your Day!!!

Mothers day is coming up and I would like to dedicate this blog to all the women who have been influential in my life especially my mom.    Growing up I was the youngest of three.  My mom and dad worked long hours for very little pay but somehow always made  out of .15 cents.  My mom is one of the most hard working determined  faith the size of a mustard gotta love GOD or where would we be woman.  My mom has taught me perseverance  hard work and to trust in God no matter how your circumstances and situations look.  My mom is a cancer survivor and no matter how she feels she is grateful  for everyday to wake up on this side of life.  When I was growing up I felt my mom was so strict at times and soooooo bossy.  Now being a mother myself I understand so much more .  I know now why we went to church all day Sunday bible study on Wednesday childrens church on Friday night and choir rehearsal on Saturday mornings. The discipline that we were taught and the hard work that was instilled within us  shows through to this day.  We were taught that nothing in life is free and if we want the best in life we have to work for it. And we are.  We are all hard workers.           When we were children we may not have shown the appreciation for all the things you did for us whether it was pick up a side job to make sure we had all we needed or be there to make memories with us We appreciated it.  WE appreciate you.  You are an amazing woman of God a fighter a survivor and  hardest working woman I know and I love you  for all you do and did for  me ,my brother and sister.  Sometimes it was rough for us but God brought us through and look at us now.
     I have been fortunate to have some of the greatest women in the world to me in my life from birth to now.  I thank each and everyone of you for helping to mold me into the woman I am today.  Happy mothers day to every mother out there I love you for what you do day in and day out giving life and sustaining life.  Enjoy your day because you definitely deserve it.  Your worth it.

Just A Hot Ghetto Mess!!!

Why why WHY  in 2016 are these guys still sagging.  I dont want to see your butt crack. Half of yall's drawers are dingy, dirty, holey and dont match what you have on so why again are yall showing them.  This aint sexy it aint cute its not even fashionable and when you try to run across the street trying to hold up your pants because they are 2 inches from hitting your ankles You look stupid.So let me get this straight you pull your pants up so that they will fall back down under your butt????  and why so you can walk with a huge gap inbetween hour legs trying to keep them from hitting the ground .  Or so you loo like you really got it like that........Really??????

Whats wrong with wearing your pants around your waist and not under your butt.    Public Service Announcement  We dont care what type color or pattern your drawers are Pull up your DAMN PANTS MAN!!!!!!!  Im tired of the skid marks that are being paraded around here like its a new pattern  with matching holes.  Wash your tail put on some clean drawers and pull up your pants.  Act like you know and that sagging isn't a fad it was started due to prison life and I am sure none of yall really want to go there to see how it really is up in there.  So pull up your pants young men and some young ladies and put a belt on that proper fits your body.  Look presentable and not resentable.

This really needs to be said

I'm so done with this I am just going to jump right into it. PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT: Ladies STOP GOING OUTSIDE WITH DOO RAGS, BONNETS AND ANYTHING ELSE THAT WAS MEANT FOR JUST BEDTIME and or IN YOUR HOUSE INCLUDING PAJAMAS AND HOUSE SHOES(GET THAT HOUSE SHOES ARE ONLY FOR THE HOUSE,)

Its like an epidemic out here the warmer it gets the worst it gets.  I went to pick up my sons from school today and as Im leaving here's a young lady in a bonnet  yes one of those little house on the praire looking hair wraps. It doesnt matter that they make them in assorted colors and prints.  Its still ridiculous to wear outside your house.Why Ladies WHY!!!!!!!!!  This looks so wrong so bad and so tacky.  Believe me I understand in a rush you dont want to take your hair down....... but really your kids school, WalMART,  the grocery store???????  Anywhere but your house is unacceptable.Im about comfort just like the next person but Why in the entire HELL would you wear your pajamas any further than you mailbox I mean come on you are no longer trying to be comfortable you just lazy.  Either you too lazy to find outside clothes which means you didnt wash you nasty behind(Washing the crust out your eyes doesnt count as washing your body?) or you too lazy to wash clothes.  Either way its just wrong.  Ladies there is nothing wrong with just putting your hair in a ponytail(if you have enough  dont make a struggle tail  where your struggling to get your hair to meet in the middle of your head)  or take a comb to it to make it look decent to walk out your door.  Lets take time to make our selves look nice. Show you take pride inyourself everyday and not  just when its time to go club.  Be presentable and not embarrassing to the entire culture.

RESPECT

Where has the respect for adults gone in this world.  So by now I am pretty sure everyone has seen the video of Katt Williams and thoe 17 year old boy  fight.  At first glance  the edited video was hilarious but then reality sets in and the full video version is aired.  Since when has it been ok for a CHILD to disrespect his elders by taunting him and egging him on and daring him to whoop his tail.  Since when has it been ok for you to put your hands on an adult Or even threaten an adult.  I remember back when I was a child if we even thought to mumble under our breathe we would get checked.  We knew better than to speak out of turn to an adult or to speak while they were speaking.  It wasn't a fear thing but a respect thing.  Somewhere down the line respect for adults has been lost. Respect for life period has been lost.  We need to instill respect in our kids for everyone. Young, old, man or woman, gay or straight, catholic, protestant  or muslim.We need to respect everyone.  We need to respect Life.  We have so many killings so many fights over ignorant things especially in our youth.  Where have we went wrong as a community as a country. A conversation needs to be had with our youth whether it's your child, niece ,nephew,  granchild great grand child, brother or sister.  Talk about what respect is and how it is given and recieved.  Respect is not gain through fear but understanding. HOlding a gun doesnt get you respect but it unleashes fear.  Fighting doesnt gain you respect just disdain.  The definition of respect is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities qualities or achievements.  You dont have to know someone to respect them.  I can respect you for being present being alive a living being.  Elders should be respected for all the things they have lived through and done to bring life forth and nourish it. Show eachother respect.  To whom much is given much is received!!!

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Over this last year I have had health crisis within my family.  Several family members were diagnosed with cancer ranging from leukemia to breast cancer.  Mid year I found a lump in my right breast.  Normally I get them and they turn out to be calcium deposists and they go away within a few weeks.  This lump stayed for a few months.  I finally called my doctor who gave me the name and number of a breast cancer screening doctors office.  When I went into my mammogram appointment I saw women young and old waiting to be seen. There were about 20-25 women waiting.  There was one young lady who had gotten some upsetting news and was crying while being comforted by her mother.  I was literally in the office from 9am to almost 6PM.  I got my mammogram and I also got an ultrasound of my breast due to the dense nature of them.(this is normal in younger women).  After the tests were completed I had to wait some more for the doctor.  I was then called in to speak with the doctor.  MY doctor had my scans up on a few computer screens and she says "We found 5 masses instead of the one that you came in with concerns.  Two of the masses look suspicious so we want to do a biopsy." (GASP) .  My heart dropped.  Here I am coming in because I felt one lump that was sizable and you tell me I have 5 and now I have to have a biopsy.  I immediately got nervous. I decided to go ahead and have the biopsy same day didnt want to wait any longer. I needed to get answers sooner than later.  I called my husband to let him know what was found and that I had to get a biopsy of two of the 5 lumps.  I can tell he was nervous but I tried to stay calm and reassure him I was ok and not to worry.  I had no clue as to what this procedure consisted of.  I called my mom to let her know what was going on as well and put up a strong front.  I was nervous.  I have never had any type of surgery only time I have been in the hospital was during my pregnancies. Picture of health.  I go through with the biopsy and now is the waiting game.  I get home I speak to my mom and my husband and I let it all out.  How nervous I am what ifs maybe I shouldve gone to the doctor sooner, Oh my God what if its breast cancer what stage am I at what will happen to my boys my husband.  But Im so young!  I had several talks with my husband in the coming days.  Him reassuring me that it's probably nothing and I will be ok.  I was told to call back in two days for my results.  The day came to recieve my results I literally shook while dialing the number and then the nurse answered the phone very politely,  I told her my name and date of birth and why I was calling she put me on hold for like 20 seconds and it felt like 20 minutes.  When she came back on the line she told me the results were the masses were benign  not cancerous.  I got teary eyed.  I was overjoyed.  I went back to the doctors office maybe a week later for the results in letter form because I know now they are benign but the question remained what are they and why are they still here.  I have to go back every 6 months to have them looked at to make sure nothing changed no new lumps are there etc.  I said all of this to say no matter how young or old  you are make sure you are giving yourself self breast exams monthly to make sure you dont have anything out of the ordinary going on.  You dont want have something wrong and not know about it until its too late.  Breast cancer to me has no age limit although the medical profession wants to put one there saying mammograms are not neccessary until after your 40 years old.  Im 32 yrs old and I have been doing self breast exams ever since I got them.  I am a true believer that disease knows no age. Be proactive and if you have cancer or a particular disease in your family that maybe genetic talk with your doctor about genetic testing this way you can proactively fight the disease and win. Ladies and men go to the NationalBreastCancer.org  for the plan on how to do a self breast exam as well as how often.  Be careful be smart Check your self!!!!




****Update:  I go  next Thursday for a followup. Hoping and praying I dont have to get another biopsy and if I do the results  come back as benign!!!*****

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For my first entry I have been agonizing over what I should write about and it has taken me sometime to figure it out.  It hit me tonight or morning depending on how you look at it.  Forgiveness.  This is something that many people cant seem to accept or give.  Forgiveness is one of the hardest things on this earth to do.  Whether its giving it or even receiving it.  I believe the hardest part is forgiving yourself.  Many people dont realize that when something happens within their life  its imperative to forgive themselves.  We blame ourselves  for putting ourselves in positions that caused pain to ourselves or others close to us.  I have gone through things in my life of which I blamed myself either I wasnt strong enough or I didnt speak up for myself when warranted.  I had to come to the realization that if I didnt  forgive myself  I would do more damage than good.  Contrary to popular belief forgiveness is more for you than it is for the other person or persons who may have wronged you.  You cant grow if you are stunted by the thoughts and memories of your past that have caused you hurt.  The way to grow and get better whether its emotionally or even physically you have to forgive others and yourself.  Not for them but for yourself.  Holding onto pain and stress can manifest itself within your life whether or not its emotional or physical it can cause harm.  In relationships or within your health.  You dont have to be face to face with the person who caused you harm you can say it while looking at a mirror or sitting in quiet room. Say I forgive you for what you have done but I will no longer allow you or what happen to continue to keep a hold on me and my life.  I forgive myself  so that I can move on and be happy.  I hold no more harmful feelings towards myself or others.  You are worth more than what you've been through and no matter what has happened in your life you can make it.  If you are reading this you are already half way there.  Now this may not be an immediate thing but over time you should feel better about yourself.  Just know you are wonderfully and fearfully made. Your mistakes do not define you but how you recover from your situation makes all the difference.  Love and forgive yourself . It may be harder  than just reading this message but you have to start somewhere find someone you trust to talk out somethings
(find someone you know wont tell all your business) or even write it out.   Forgiveness is not easy to give and its not easy to recieve because once forgiveness is given and recieved you have to make sure that what you are being forgiven for or giving forgivenss you dont repeat it .  You have a responsibility to yourself not to repeat the same offense again.  Be happy, love more live longer!

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