RESPECT

Where has the respect for adults gone in this world.  So by now I am pretty sure everyone has seen the video of Katt Williams and thoe 17 year old boy  fight.  At first glance  the edited video was hilarious but then reality sets in and the full video version is aired.  Since when has it been ok for a CHILD to disrespect his elders by taunting him and egging him on and daring him to whoop his tail.  Since when has it been ok for you to put your hands on an adult Or even threaten an adult.  I remember back when I was a child if we even thought to mumble under our breathe we would get checked.  We knew better than to speak out of turn to an adult or to speak while they were speaking.  It wasn't a fear thing but a respect thing.  Somewhere down the line respect for adults has been lost. Respect for life period has been lost.  We need to instill respect in our kids for everyone. Young, old, man or woman, gay or straight, catholic, protestant  or muslim.We need to respect everyone.  We need to respect Life.  We have so many killings so many fights over ignorant things especially in our youth.  Where have we went wrong as a community as a country. A conversation needs to be had with our youth whether it's your child, niece ,nephew,  granchild great grand child, brother or sister.  Talk about what respect is and how it is given and recieved.  Respect is not gain through fear but understanding. HOlding a gun doesnt get you respect but it unleashes fear.  Fighting doesnt gain you respect just disdain.  The definition of respect is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities qualities or achievements.  You dont have to know someone to respect them.  I can respect you for being present being alive a living being.  Elders should be respected for all the things they have lived through and done to bring life forth and nourish it. Show eachother respect.  To whom much is given much is received!!!

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Over this last year I have had health crisis within my family.  Several family members were diagnosed with cancer ranging from leukemia to breast cancer.  Mid year I found a lump in my right breast.  Normally I get them and they turn out to be calcium deposists and they go away within a few weeks.  This lump stayed for a few months.  I finally called my doctor who gave me the name and number of a breast cancer screening doctors office.  When I went into my mammogram appointment I saw women young and old waiting to be seen. There were about 20-25 women waiting.  There was one young lady who had gotten some upsetting news and was crying while being comforted by her mother.  I was literally in the office from 9am to almost 6PM.  I got my mammogram and I also got an ultrasound of my breast due to the dense nature of them.(this is normal in younger women).  After the tests were completed I had to wait some more for the doctor.  I was then called in to speak with the doctor.  MY doctor had my scans up on a few computer screens and she says "We found 5 masses instead of the one that you came in with concerns.  Two of the masses look suspicious so we want to do a biopsy." (GASP) .  My heart dropped.  Here I am coming in because I felt one lump that was sizable and you tell me I have 5 and now I have to have a biopsy.  I immediately got nervous. I decided to go ahead and have the biopsy same day didnt want to wait any longer. I needed to get answers sooner than later.  I called my husband to let him know what was found and that I had to get a biopsy of two of the 5 lumps.  I can tell he was nervous but I tried to stay calm and reassure him I was ok and not to worry.  I had no clue as to what this procedure consisted of.  I called my mom to let her know what was going on as well and put up a strong front.  I was nervous.  I have never had any type of surgery only time I have been in the hospital was during my pregnancies. Picture of health.  I go through with the biopsy and now is the waiting game.  I get home I speak to my mom and my husband and I let it all out.  How nervous I am what ifs maybe I shouldve gone to the doctor sooner, Oh my God what if its breast cancer what stage am I at what will happen to my boys my husband.  But Im so young!  I had several talks with my husband in the coming days.  Him reassuring me that it's probably nothing and I will be ok.  I was told to call back in two days for my results.  The day came to recieve my results I literally shook while dialing the number and then the nurse answered the phone very politely,  I told her my name and date of birth and why I was calling she put me on hold for like 20 seconds and it felt like 20 minutes.  When she came back on the line she told me the results were the masses were benign  not cancerous.  I got teary eyed.  I was overjoyed.  I went back to the doctors office maybe a week later for the results in letter form because I know now they are benign but the question remained what are they and why are they still here.  I have to go back every 6 months to have them looked at to make sure nothing changed no new lumps are there etc.  I said all of this to say no matter how young or old  you are make sure you are giving yourself self breast exams monthly to make sure you dont have anything out of the ordinary going on.  You dont want have something wrong and not know about it until its too late.  Breast cancer to me has no age limit although the medical profession wants to put one there saying mammograms are not neccessary until after your 40 years old.  Im 32 yrs old and I have been doing self breast exams ever since I got them.  I am a true believer that disease knows no age. Be proactive and if you have cancer or a particular disease in your family that maybe genetic talk with your doctor about genetic testing this way you can proactively fight the disease and win. Ladies and men go to the NationalBreastCancer.org  for the plan on how to do a self breast exam as well as how often.  Be careful be smart Check your self!!!!




****Update:  I go  next Thursday for a followup. Hoping and praying I dont have to get another biopsy and if I do the results  come back as benign!!!*****

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For my first entry I have been agonizing over what I should write about and it has taken me sometime to figure it out.  It hit me tonight or morning depending on how you look at it.  Forgiveness.  This is something that many people cant seem to accept or give.  Forgiveness is one of the hardest things on this earth to do.  Whether its giving it or even receiving it.  I believe the hardest part is forgiving yourself.  Many people dont realize that when something happens within their life  its imperative to forgive themselves.  We blame ourselves  for putting ourselves in positions that caused pain to ourselves or others close to us.  I have gone through things in my life of which I blamed myself either I wasnt strong enough or I didnt speak up for myself when warranted.  I had to come to the realization that if I didnt  forgive myself  I would do more damage than good.  Contrary to popular belief forgiveness is more for you than it is for the other person or persons who may have wronged you.  You cant grow if you are stunted by the thoughts and memories of your past that have caused you hurt.  The way to grow and get better whether its emotionally or even physically you have to forgive others and yourself.  Not for them but for yourself.  Holding onto pain and stress can manifest itself within your life whether or not its emotional or physical it can cause harm.  In relationships or within your health.  You dont have to be face to face with the person who caused you harm you can say it while looking at a mirror or sitting in quiet room. Say I forgive you for what you have done but I will no longer allow you or what happen to continue to keep a hold on me and my life.  I forgive myself  so that I can move on and be happy.  I hold no more harmful feelings towards myself or others.  You are worth more than what you've been through and no matter what has happened in your life you can make it.  If you are reading this you are already half way there.  Now this may not be an immediate thing but over time you should feel better about yourself.  Just know you are wonderfully and fearfully made. Your mistakes do not define you but how you recover from your situation makes all the difference.  Love and forgive yourself . It may be harder  than just reading this message but you have to start somewhere find someone you trust to talk out somethings
(find someone you know wont tell all your business) or even write it out.   Forgiveness is not easy to give and its not easy to recieve because once forgiveness is given and recieved you have to make sure that what you are being forgiven for or giving forgivenss you dont repeat it .  You have a responsibility to yourself not to repeat the same offense again.  Be happy, love more live longer!